Rebecca D'Amato - The Emotional painkiller - Closing the Parent Wound

“I teach you that being in your dark place, is simply God’s cry for time with you"

I know the first thing you want to know is; will I understand?

Here is my story, judge for yourself.

My wound was created because my parents were emotionally juvenile and narcissistic, the dynamic in my family was the wrong way around and so I became the family matriarch and caregiver to both my parents and my two younger sisters from the pitiful age of four.

I grew up in a climate of extreme violence, dysfunction and emotional neglect.

Inevitably the outcome was that I emerged into adulthood the archetypal rescuer – attracting needy friends and lovers who were never looking for love or friendship – they were looking for help.

I’m not going to tell you that my self-esteem was ‘low’ by time I had reached my pain threshold with manipulators, fuckwits and my perpetual state of depression and self-loathing, because I’d be lying, my self-esteem was zero.

My journey to where I am now spanned almost two decades, during that time I qualified as a Transpersonal Psychotherapist and Emotional Techniques Practitioner.  

Early in my quest for confidence and self-love I fell down the New Age rabbit hole of complexity, expense, guidance- overload and pseudo-spirituality.

…but spirituality isn’t chanting, crystals and tarot cards, spirituality is simply love in its purest, unconditional form – and it begins with learning to love yourself.

It was little wonder I didn’t find the relief for my pain I was seeking when I was reinforcing the same beliefs that caused my pain with every healing appointment I kept – I wasn’t aware of it back then but with every healing appointment I kept what I was really saying was…

At the end of this session I want to be a more acceptable person to myself and others, I want to feel better, different, other than what I am truly feeling."

…but it’s precisely that which caused my wound in the first place.

I had simply swapped my earlier coping mechanisms; shopping, cigarettes, sex, sugar etc for new ones; alternative medicine, psychic intervention and psychotherapy, so nothing ever changed, I was still merely coping instead of living.

Just like you, I was programmed to feel shame for feeling that which my emotionally illiterate parents were unwilling and unable to respond to in a healthy fashion.

Learning to love ourselves completely begins when we learn to love every aspect of ourselves – to attempt to heal that which we must feel, express and take ownership of is to continue to hate ourselves – there’s no love or empowerment to be found in self-loathing.

The second thing you want to know is; can I help you in a way that is tangible, lasting and effective?

Yes, I can, simply because…

I resolve your pain with an educational approach, instead of coming from the perspective that there’s something wrong with you that needs to be healed.

I borrow intelligent (but easy to grasp) concepts from my background in psychotherapy and combine them with the true, fluff-free meaning of spirituality – that of having access to your own wisdom – to stand you resolutely and unapologetically in your authenticity and power.

An emotional education helps you to understand why you are the way you are, gives you the strength to overcome unhelpful patterns, to form more satisfying relationships and to truly express your potential in every aspect of your life

If you are ready to heal the parent wound once and for all, if you are looking for an effective and permanent solution to all your unresolved pain contact me to make an appointment for an informal chat at

Do you want to affiliate with The Panacea Program and receive a FREE place on the course?

Maybe you are a member of a yoga group, a spiritual interest circle, or you are a student counsellor or psychotherapist?

All you have to do to receive a free place on the program is take two easy steps…

  1. Organise a group of a minimum of 15 people (maximum 30)
  2. Complete the online form. I will then book a venue and do the rest!

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